Beyond Your Role: Confronting Concerns of Irrelevance

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Am I Still Valued?

There comes a moment in your career transition when the ending of your role is met with worry: You may ask yourself: Do I still matter? Without the title, the office, or the responsibilities that once reaffirmed your place in the world, a profound, personal concern may become evident: that of becoming irrelevant.

This is not just about your sense of self-worth. It’s about the loss of connection, contribution, and significance. For those of us who have spent decades in professions where our expertise, judgment, and leadership were valued, the end of our careers effectively end our contributions in that particular setting. It creates a loss of recognition that for many, raises this question: If I am no longer seen in the same way, do I still have value? Am I still relevant?

Origins of Relevance

There are two sources of personal and professional relevance. The primary, enduring, source arises from within ourselves: internal relevance. The secondary, diminishing, source is expressed to us by others: external relevance.

To experience expressions of relevance is a good thing. To be appreciated, valued, and feel the expressed gratitude of others are healthy and powerful emotions that reinforce a sense of self-worth and purpose. These are external sources of relevance that bring forth emotions that help fuel the many motivations of our lives.

This feeling of relevance and the need for it, is present throughout our lives. It is apparent in a child who desires attention as well as an adult that appreciates recognition for a worthy accomplishment.

The need for relevance has a wonderful stubbornness to persist as we are growing up, mature, get wiser… and certainly after the end of our careers.

Our external sources of relevance may be evanescent, but our internal source endures. 

It is beneficial for you have clarity and conviction about this as you move forward. 

Recognition and Relevance 

The cessation of your career is accompanied by a loss of recognition, not of what you have contributed over many years, but rather by the discontinuation of contributions that combined with expressions of gratitude, would have been a source of external relevance. 

You have the ability to recognize and nurture your internal, personal sense of relevance. It arises from clarity of Who you are and conviction of your purpose in life…both of which endure. It is up to you to find ways to express both in different ways that will contribute to your personal fulfillment.

Reframing What It Means to Matter

The transition from high visibility to a more private life invites a shift from external affirmation to internal clarity. This is when your Why reemerges: the purpose of your life that was expressed by what you once did.

Your will have an ongoing need to express your purpose, as it does not end. Rather, it endures, as does relevance. What once looked like chairing a department or leading a firm may now look like mentoring, creating, advocating, or simply being available to impart wisdom earned through your lived experiences.

The World Moves On, but You’re Still Here

There may be moments when you see your field change. New leaders step in. New methods replace old ones. The pace feels faster, the language unfamiliar. And with that change, a quiet distance can emerge.

But staying current isn’t the only way to stay meaningful. What you bring is perspective, something no technology or new strategy can replace, the essential human element beneath the process of societal evolution.

Your contributions now may be more about expressing your wisdom of what should endure.

Many professionals wonder about the legacy they leave. By living your Why, with generosity, curiosity, and courage, you shape a legacy that’s quietly visible in every life you touch. Not through position, but through goodwill, wisdom, and presence.

You Are Not Obsolete, You Are Evolving

Obsolescence is a term appropriate to describe machines, not humans beings. You are not outdated. You are evolving.

This stage of life is not about preserving your place in the old world. It’s about inhabiting your place in this one, differently.

The concern about irrelevance can be significant. But it rests on a misunderstanding: that your value was ever conditional on performance, position, or popularity.

The truth is simpler. You matter because you are Who you are. Your purpose has long been expressed in ways that improve the human condition, and you will feel fulfilled in continuing to do so. That beautifully stubborn persistence is a core element of legacy.

You are not done. You are evolving with the benefit of knowledge, experience and wisdom.

Mt best wishes to you and your family!

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